by Travis Mateer

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I have a theory about cuck-culture I’d like to share, but it’s not from “lived experience”, though I did encourage my wife to go out and flirt with other men before I ultimately decided to divorce her. My theory goes something like this: the ubiquitous experience of passively consuming pornography for men has begun rewiring their sexual circuits to expansively include the possibility of actually ENJOYING a wife or girlfriend conspicuously fucking other men, otherwise known as getting cuck’d.

If you doubt this notion, an article on the psychology of cuckolding features the porn-perspective in the subheading of the article:

From the link:

The popularity of cuckolding in pornography has likely introduced the idea to more couples, including those to whom it may never have otherwise occurred. Of course, there’s a huge difference between fantasizing about your wife having sex with someone else, and the reality of it. 

Dr. David Ley — a clinical psychologist, and author of Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, a study of cuckolding among heterosexual couples, and one of very few doing serious research into the topic — stresses that one might get off on the fantasy, and be repelled by the reality. The practicalities of cuckolding aren’t exactly easy, either. 

“It requires an incredible amount of negotiation beforehand, and after,” Ley says. “And, let’s be clear, the idea of cuckoldry really isn’t arousing for everybody.” As K adds, some “thirds,” as the selected males are sometimes called, love the idea in theory but fail to rise to the occasion. She stresses the importance of recognizing the emotional complexity of this situation for him too: Is he assisting in the breakup of a marriage? Is he okay with having not just an audience, but a specific audience with rather a lot riding on the situation? 

Despite the culture of cuckolding emerging as just another form of weird kink, the term is still mostly considered a pejorative, especially when grafted to OTHER words, like conservative. Here’s the Wikipedia definition of CUCKSERVATIVE:

“Cuckservative” is a pejorative formed as a portmanteau of “cuck”, an abbreviation of the word “cuckold”, and the political designation “conservative”. It has become a derogatory label used by white nationalists and the alt-right in the United States to denigrate other conservatives, generally for not being moderates, and later for not supporting white-nationalist interests.

The word “cuckservative” reached a high level of mainstream political conversation around mid-July 2015, where it gained media attention just a few weeks before the start of the first Republican primary debate for the 2016 United States presidential election.

Does Montana have any CUCKSERVATIVES? If you’ve been following the joke of a Republican “majority” in Montana then you know that Montana has NINE of ’em, and here’s my favorite CUCKSERVATIVE, the singer of Mineral County, Denny Loge:

How does a legislator who served on the jury in a DV case against David Barsotti feel about being called a CUCKSERVATIVE? If her responds to my text message this morning, I’ll let you know, dear reader.

Returning to the title of this post, it was the conclusion of the popular show, White Lotus, that got me thinking about finally writing about his curious phenomenon, since one of the characters is revealed to have a cuckold fantasy he’s hoping his girlfriend will help him live out.

Here’s some more context from an article about the season finale and how the cuckold fantasy lines up with the much funnier Sam Rockwell fantasy of becoming an Asian girl so he can be fucked by himself, or some shit like that.

Though I’m reticent to judge this emerging trend in cuckold-fucking, its correlation with porn consumption and the messiness of the reality vs. fantasy of actually enacting it has me wondering about the health of cuck-culture as it relates to the biological imperative of perpetuating our species. Though it may come as a surprise to young people, babies get made when men put their penises into vaginas and ejaculate. If you don’t engage in this act enough, you might non-fuck yourself out of existence, like Japan is trying to do right now.

Japan’s total population declined for the 15th straight year in 2023, dropping by more than a half-million people as the population ages and births remain low.

Births in Japan hit a record low of 730,000 last year. The 1.58 million deaths last year were also a record high. Japan’s population was 124.9 million as of Jan. 1.

The data released Wednesday by Japan’s Internal Affairs Ministry also showed that the 11% increase in foreign residents helped their population surpass 3 million for the first time. They now make up nearly 3% of the total population and are mostly of working age from 15 to 64.

Surveys show that younger Japanese are increasingly reluctant to marry or have children, discouraged by bleak job prospects, the high cost of living — which rises at a faster pace than salaries — and a gender-biased corporate culture that adds a burden only on women and working mothers.

In summary, fucking is changing, but if it changes too much, we might need to reimagine the whole MAKING BABIES routine.

Thanks for reading!

UPDATE: I got a response!